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jheti
I was trying to write about slash, and only slash, where slash is considered m/m, but naturally it became about women instead. Try to follow it anyway? Or not. No skin off my nose.
For me, personally, m/m is a few things:
1)Punching down hard on the almighty Authority Button.
Men are, for a thousand reasons, considered "naturally more assertive", so when you throw them together, they can HURT EACH OTHER and no one says, "Oh, they're just being emotional," which is something that, especially when I see other women DO IT TO THEMSELVES and their characters inside their own worlds, I usually turn the computer off and go sit somewhere biting my own cheek/lip/arm until the tension and rage go away. I'm completely serious.
2) An excusable cover for the f/f I would rather see, or a substitute for the fact that the women are either absent or uninteresting--both typical of anything Japanese in origin, because the porn by-women-for-women in that culture is usually m/m.
Here again, a lot of my fandoms are constructed by one woman writer and a passel of men, or entirely by men. (Mortal Kombat, Jem, Charmed, Fullmetal [anime], etc.) It seems likely to me, if sexist and unfair to men OHNOES, that much of the reason women in these or any other more "mainstream" fandom--especially the TV ones, Lost and House and, (it pains me to type this!), Heroes, I am glaring right at you, right this minute--are so insipid and stupid is because they're being written by men, who, for the most part, do not actually CARE what women are "really like", and do not CARE about "emotional empathy" or anything suspiciously feminine like that, so OF COURSE the women are all going to be bitchy/toughies, fainting love interests, and Evil Whores With Giant Boobs.
(I will not digress into Why I Love the Evil Whore Characters. I will not. This is me stopping myself. I might actually write something in defense of Yo-Saff-Bridge. Especially because all the other girls hate her, and if only for that, I feel I should defend her. XD)
This is not to say that there is no such thing as a sensitive man. I am speaking from twelve years of being "one of the guys" in various gamer and literature communities on-and-offline when I say: when you put A BUNCH OF GUYS TOGETHER, you will get exactly and only that kind of stereotypical response. Individual men are sensitive, or can be. A group of men is a mob. Period. Which means that a man-mob writing television, or anything else, is incapable of writing interesting women.
Prove me wrong? Good god, PLEASE DO. That's a show I'd sacrifice kittens for! I'm serious. I've been waiting for a quarter century. Show me a man that can actually write a fair, equitable relationship where the woman is a REAL PERSON. And there's no religious crap. I'd love that. I would love to be wrong. Unfortunately, I do not think I am. And that hurts in ways and places I don't think are translatable online.
Anyway. Let's rewind to back before I chased off everything with a Y chromosome. XD
3)My characters are perverts. They always have been. Any gen or humor or angst you see coming off my corner is the sublimation of what they really want--sex scenes holding hands. It's just that simple.
4)The bottom line is, m/m has a wider audience and thus gets me more attention in certain circles. Fullmetal Alchemist fandom, you're pretty much guilty as charged. Matrix fandom might be acquitted if someone would write me a Trinity/Switch fic.
(Seriously. They're both such deliciously blank-faced almost-androgynous opposites in chromatic scheme. DO WANT. The occasional foray into short, plotless, pretty-women-fucking-with-no-angst-attached is good for the soul. ^_~)
Paradoxically, I gravitate toward male-written fandoms BECAUSE the women ARE blank slates--I get a lot of writing room.
And the title bar is a misnomer; I don't hate men, I just tend to view them as objects instead of real people. XD
Stopping now. Will probably go over it again later.
For me, personally, m/m is a few things:
1)Punching down hard on the almighty Authority Button.
Men are, for a thousand reasons, considered "naturally more assertive", so when you throw them together, they can HURT EACH OTHER and no one says, "Oh, they're just being emotional," which is something that, especially when I see other women DO IT TO THEMSELVES and their characters inside their own worlds, I usually turn the computer off and go sit somewhere biting my own cheek/lip/arm until the tension and rage go away. I'm completely serious.
2) An excusable cover for the f/f I would rather see, or a substitute for the fact that the women are either absent or uninteresting--both typical of anything Japanese in origin, because the porn by-women-for-women in that culture is usually m/m.
Here again, a lot of my fandoms are constructed by one woman writer and a passel of men, or entirely by men. (Mortal Kombat, Jem, Charmed, Fullmetal [anime], etc.) It seems likely to me, if sexist and unfair to men OHNOES, that much of the reason women in these or any other more "mainstream" fandom--especially the TV ones, Lost and House and, (it pains me to type this!), Heroes, I am glaring right at you, right this minute--are so insipid and stupid is because they're being written by men, who, for the most part, do not actually CARE what women are "really like", and do not CARE about "emotional empathy" or anything suspiciously feminine like that, so OF COURSE the women are all going to be bitchy/toughies, fainting love interests, and Evil Whores With Giant Boobs.
(I will not digress into Why I Love the Evil Whore Characters. I will not. This is me stopping myself. I might actually write something in defense of Yo-Saff-Bridge. Especially because all the other girls hate her, and if only for that, I feel I should defend her. XD)
This is not to say that there is no such thing as a sensitive man. I am speaking from twelve years of being "one of the guys" in various gamer and literature communities on-and-offline when I say: when you put A BUNCH OF GUYS TOGETHER, you will get exactly and only that kind of stereotypical response. Individual men are sensitive, or can be. A group of men is a mob. Period. Which means that a man-mob writing television, or anything else, is incapable of writing interesting women.
Prove me wrong? Good god, PLEASE DO. That's a show I'd sacrifice kittens for! I'm serious. I've been waiting for a quarter century. Show me a man that can actually write a fair, equitable relationship where the woman is a REAL PERSON. And there's no religious crap. I'd love that. I would love to be wrong. Unfortunately, I do not think I am. And that hurts in ways and places I don't think are translatable online.
Anyway. Let's rewind to back before I chased off everything with a Y chromosome. XD
3)My characters are perverts. They always have been. Any gen or humor or angst you see coming off my corner is the sublimation of what they really want--sex scenes holding hands. It's just that simple.
4)The bottom line is, m/m has a wider audience and thus gets me more attention in certain circles. Fullmetal Alchemist fandom, you're pretty much guilty as charged. Matrix fandom might be acquitted if someone would write me a Trinity/Switch fic.
(Seriously. They're both such deliciously blank-faced almost-androgynous opposites in chromatic scheme. DO WANT. The occasional foray into short, plotless, pretty-women-fucking-with-no-angst-attached is good for the soul. ^_~)
Paradoxically, I gravitate toward male-written fandoms BECAUSE the women ARE blank slates--I get a lot of writing room.
And the title bar is a misnomer; I don't hate men, I just tend to view them as objects instead of real people. XD
Stopping now. Will probably go over it again later.
